Everyone especially ladies dream about their beautiful, colourful wedding and exchange of vows, sometimes you get carried away with what you feel and not what should be.
Before you say ‘I do” to anyone, here are eleven questions you should be able to answer honestly;
- Is for better or worse making me better or worse?
Does your partner encourage you to be your best self, or does he or she get intimidated by any triumphs and feel more secure when you’re not putting your best at what you are good at?
- Does he/she trust you sincerely?
You need to be sure if your man/woman trusts you enough to live their lives with you, be sure its trust and not thrust.
- Is this what I want?
You need to be certain of what you want in your partner, remember, no turning back after the bold step.
- Am I happy to be in this relationship?
The idea of sharing a life together is not to find someone to complete you or make you happy. If you are not happy while courting, there is every possibility that you will not be happy when married.
- Is this relationship balanced?
Do you feel you’re both on the same page in terms of compromise, care, support and sacrifice? Or is one of you doing most of the giving while the other just sits with their hand out?
- Why am I in this relationship?
Is it because you respect, love, trust, and value the person you are with? Or because you’re afraid of being alone, worried about finances, or have built a life you’re scared to leave?
- Am I with a good person?
Knowing what you know about your partner today, would you vouch for them if they were a friend?
- Am I attracted to my partner?
Physical attraction is hardly the most important component in a relationship, but forcing yourself to be in a relationship with someone who you’re not attracted to just because it’s comfortable or “perfect on paper” isn’t fair to anyone.
- Are we looking in the same direction?
Some couples avoid having the big talks (religion, marriage, and babies); discuss such issues before the vows or you will find it difficult to both agree.
- Are we growing together?
Being a human being living on this earth, we all have a right to grow and develop, and create a full life for ourselves. Are you and your partner still indulging in your passions (individual and shared) and growing as individuals?
- Am I still myself?
Being in love with someone should not require loosing your trough self to fit someone else’s idea of who we should be, be yourself and he/she will take you just the way you are.
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Where do you think you are missing it? Make the right decision today and be rest assured of marital bliss.